Sunday, April 01, 2012



....and this one would fall under the category of  F***** up coping skills, and would make it  my F***** up coping skill # 3.
Avoidance is simply a way of coping without having to cope, when feelings of discomfort appear we find ways of avoiding them.  I have avoided things in many different ways, removing myself physical from certain situations, by procrastinating til the last minute when I am forced to deal with things, by isolating myself, by not participating.
This way of being has worked quite nicely for me, especially in the last year.


Sharon said...

Don't worry about it, everybody f**** up, but few will admit it!

Tina said...

:) Oh I have no problem admitting when I f*** up:)

Pearson Report said...

I say if it ain't broke don't fix it...and if this works for you I say good on ya!

Great start to the A to Z "avoidance" in this category!! :)

Jenny @ Pearson Report
Co-Host of the Blogging from A to Z Challenge.

Ciara said...

Well mess up at some point. I'm a new follower from A-Z. Great A post!

Jenn3128 said...

Avoidance, I'm right there with you. I attempt to deal with sh*t in my own head until I just can't handle anymore then explode. Not the healthiest method, but I'm slowly working on voicing myself.

Inger said...

A very honest post. And it gave me something to think about.

Joyce Sully said...

It's actually not as messed up as all that. Avoidance can be a good form of self-care, provided you're not letting important obligations and opportunities slip by in the process. Sometimes, sticking your fingers in your ears and pretending you're somewhere else is the best way to get through the day.

I look forward to the rest of your challenge posts.

Cat said...

I normally do the procrastination. Putting things off seems to not be a big deal... Until it is, in my case... But f****** up is a fact of life, I believe.


Misha Gerrick said...

I'd say avoidance is my least favorite coping strategy, but one that I can hop to at the worst times.

Tina said...

It sure is an easy one to fall back on and it works every time and yes it is a way of self care, not very productive though. :(

Maryannwrites said...

Sometimes avoidance is a perfectly okay method of coping until we are ready to handle whatever is challenging us.