PEOPLE WHO ARE VIOLENT TO ANIMALS RARELY STOP THERE!

Saturday, October 30, 2010

Winging 8

Hmmmm, actually contemplating having some fierce conversations with a few people in my life, not sure when or how, but it is unavoidable if I want to start standing in my own truths. I think I will start with the more saver ones first, safer because there is distance between us and really the outcome won't affect me that much either way, but it will make me feel better to put a voice behind my thoughts and let them know how their behaviour has affected me. It's not about taking things personally, it's not about blaming anybody, it's not about payback, it's not about even the score or even keeping score, it's about me and my standards and what I will allow into my life, what I believe will further my growth and weeding out whatever hinders my growth. I think I pretty much lived all my life to treat others the way I would like to be treated, having said that, seems to be not everybody's philosophy and no it's not about expecting anything from others, it's about being part in each others life and supporting each other, as what makes any relationship a good relationship in my books. Wonder how much the people who are suppose to be closest to you really know about you. I bet half of them don't even know me. I have learnt a lot over the last few months, even learnt more over the last couple of weeks. I have learnt who is there, I have learnt who is just there for the ride, I have learnt that for me to grow into the person I want to be, I need to have people around me that support and encourage me, and it's been an amazing eye opener to me of who those people are, and it has been even more surprising of who these people are not. Some I am not surprised, because they have been that way towards me as long as I can remember, and again I wonder how much do they know me or even want to know me, which makes it even more sadder when those are family members, as others come and go, family is always here to stay. Funny how many conditions or strings others attach to you and how many ifs are attached to every statement about yourself. Oh I could come up with a whole list of things that are good about me, if only.....lol. Well those things are still good about me even without the if, just some people haven't figured that out yet.
I know I am responsible for my own feelings and how I react to things, and I get that, but given my history tell me how can I not feel that way about me, and don't act all high and mighty as if it doesn't bother one, I think we all should take a little bit more responsibility in how we treat others and how our behaviour towards others can effect them. Oh I can see some people rolling their eyes at me lol, but it's like telling somebody how gets bullied....oh you shouldn't take it personally. We all have a responsibility towards ourselves and others. 

7 comments:

Tracey said...

Go for it. Speak your mind, it will at least make you feel better, but some people will always be ignorant, I'm afraid & the sad thing is, we all have some family members like that. Good luck! xxx

Sharon said...

Tell them! Of course, I didn't get my "voice" till I got older, I was a rug, I was told "you need to ...." Some people will continue to be the way they are until you set them straight or you just tell them to go fry an egg.

Melodie said...

Yes it is difficult for sure to find your voice sometimes. In my own life it took me years and when I finally did it required "cutting" some family from my life.They were...well like cancer,doing nothing but trying to destroy everything good.It was hard but I am soooo glad I did because my life today and the life of my family is so much better for having done it.

Kerry said...

You go girl, it is at times hard to be positive and assertive. I am behind you 100%. You are a good friend, I miss seeing you. Have a good week end!

jayne@~an eye for threads~ said...

Sometimes people never know how you feel until it is too late, whether to late for for you or for them.

Tammy said...

I don;t have any wise words for you other then we are here for you and we miss you at stitching! Hope it will relieve some stress and tension and let you move forward once you have spoke your mind.

Hugss
ps did you see the purple moose?

Mina said...

"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those that matter, don't mind" hugs